Decades of crises and trauma, single-parenting, and social isolation have taken a serious toll on my health. Once an athlete, I gradually and then more rapidly declined to the point that even a simple daily walk was difficult. Climbing stairs took great effort; I had to consciously will my legs to move upward and use my hands on the railings to help pull myself up. If I exerted myself past a certain point — and that threshold grew ever smaller — I would experience extreme fatigue for days. Not just an “Oh, I’m a little tired” kind of thing but rather a down-to-your-bones and every cell in your body is utterly drained kind of fatigue. I developed body-wide pain, muscle weakness, loss of sensation, and tremors. I was diagnosed with osteoporosis at only 51.
Last month I began a yoga teacher training program with great trepidation. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a very long time, and something I felt I needed to do — was even “meant” to do — but how on earth could I possibly manage it with all my physical symptoms? I followed my heart, applied to the program, and started the one-weekend-a-month training last month.
The results have been, for me, miraculous, as my body has begun regaining strength and stamina. In our first training weekend part of what we learned about was the “chakras” and specifically, the first chakra, which they say is all about foundational issues and energy — security and safety. If I’m honest with you I’ll have to admit that I don’t really know what I believe about all this stuff. If I think about it in terms of physics it makes enough sense for me to hang in there. Interestingly, it coincided with the foundational work I was doing in therapy regarding insecure attachment and lack of feeling safe in the world.
In my previous post I wrote about the EMDR session in which I was able to reintegrate a split-off part of myself. What happened next is kind of bizarre. But it happened, and the results of it are quite real. You’d think that if things like this were going to happen to you, it would be in a religious setting or something. But this happened on a congested freeway while listening to Vox Populi by 30 Seconds to Mars.
Did you ever believe? Were you ever a dreamer? Ever imagine heart open and free?
Did you ever deny? Were you ever a traitor? Ever in love with your blood-lust and need?
Ever want to be free? Do you even remember?
Ever want to just stop? Do you want to surrender? Or fight for victory?
Darkness falls, here comes the rain
To wash away the past and the names
Darkness falls, here comes the rain
To end it all, the blood and the games
As those words sank in, I suddenly began to feel waves of tingly energy and a sensation of bright light originating at what I’d just learned is the first chakra and shooting out — both down through my legs and up through my spine and arms. Wave after wave went through me as I clutched the steering wheel and tried to focus on driving. It lasted a few minutes and then gradually subsided. I had no idea what had just happened but I knew it was something. I also began to notice, as I entered the city, that all the different people I drove by seemed amazing and, well, “god-like.” I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being (Hafiz).
When I arrived at my daughter’s apartment I faced a steep climb up three flights of stairs, which usually cost me great effort. But this day I simply walked up the stairs like nothing was wrong with me. Later, I went for a walk at home, wanting to check this strange thing out — had I just imagined it??? But no, I was able to walk pain-free and with no abnormal effort. This past week I’ve faced stairs on multiple occasions, and every time I’ve been able to climb them with ease.
For the first time in years my legs feel strong and alive. I’ve been able to practice yoga daily without depletion, and in fact practiced it extensively and deeply at this past training weekend in a manner that would have previously been impossible and/or left me utterly drained and fatigued for at least a week. Where only weeks ago I could feel death in my body, now I feel life. Where I felt weak, powerless, and hopeless, I now feel strong and powerful and a growing sense of hope. I feel like I’ve come back from the dead.
May Love find you — wherever you are, however you are — and meet your needs. May you find the strength and courage to continue your journey, and the hope that things can and will change. You are amazing and astonishing.